Love The One You're With
Human beings are designed to relate to things and to connect with each other.
It is better, in the long run, to try to get on with the one that you are with, no matter who they are (of course, within reason).
You can try to get on with others by learning to be flexible and adjusting to and accepting others styles.
This is not to say that you have to like what someone else does, but that you can check the facts. For example, if you think that a person acts untoward to you, does she or he single you out? Or do they behave like they do to others also, so they are not picking on you, but simply acting out their tendencies?
Even if you think someone is not being fair to you, you can manage your own reactions.
You can choose to minimise the unhelpful impact of something undesirable by choosing to take a breath and being calm. Don’t be too judgmental especially when you don’t know all the facts.
Even if a fact is that a person spoke rudely or angrily to you, you may be able to ask them why they did that, and tell them that it upset you or made you worried or feel scared. If you’re not able to let them know how you feel, allow yourself three to five minutes of unhappiness, and then get over it.
Realise that you choose how you respond. You may want to think things over, and if you do, don’t linger over your thoughts. Try to get out your thoughts (maybe aloud, spoken to someone else or put in writing or song or dance) for just ten minutes only.
Then move on. You give the situation meaning. Tolerance is accepting things and wisdom is knowing to do something or not when and where. You have other choices, like seeing how things unfold without being angry or demanding things your way, or taking immediate steps to resolve a situation.
If you think the person is aware of the effect they are having, refine your coping strategies and send love and light to the person, asking for the transformation that is for their highest good. Don’t confuse yourself. It’ okay to feel the way you do and to ponder the situation, but try not to get worked up. Practice this as practice makes progress.
Work on not being overwhelmed and on taking positive steps to let someone know they are not being sensitive. At the right time and in the right way, communicate with them, starting with letting them know that you appreciate them and want your relationship with them to be better.
Connect to your Higher Heart or to your Soul and “feel” the essence behind the situation. You are being called to look after yourself by removing e-motion from the moment.
For example, it’s okay to have an emotion of fright if you are running away from a bear, but if there is no immediate threat, physically, and no online threats (which can be reported anyway and acted upon); then it is a matter of working with the person who has challenged you and/or engaging stakeholders to help you.
Feelings are different to emotions. Feelings are a sensation, like feeling peaceful or calm or neutral. Go for the sensations or presence of forgiveness, peacefulness, positivity and openness.
Be open to the potential in the field of Source or from God. You can pray to your Guardian Angel and ask your Spirit Guides to help you deal with a person or situation.
From this place, which is the core of you, you are better able to deal with unwanted or unexpected situations.
Be a friend to your body, and consciously send peace, love and light to it, which will help heal your body.
Heavy emotions like anger and frustration will dampen the body’s energy force, so must not be sustained. Avoid them if you can, and reduce them to mild annoyance and to a fleeting frustration.
Jesus said “Forgive them for they know not what they do” and this is true in some situations.
But human beings tend to dramatise things or reject how people are like, even if that tendency is in them!
It is okay not to agree with or like what someone else does, but better not to drain your energy by reacting with sustained anger and frustration and depression.
You need to put in the work, calmly, to get the support you need, and to change the situation peacefully. It’s okay to be a little angry if that fuels you to put on your “thinking cap” to peacefully resolve the situation.
Perhaps journal about what happened and explore your emotions in terms of why you had them. Talk or chat to a friendly person to cheer yourself up, or to help resolve the situation. Listen to lovely music or take a walk to replenish or recharge your energy.
Try to “love the one you’re with”.
This may mean working on yourself to not be so sensitive to things. It may mean working on yourself so that you are able to change people’s undesirable attitudes if you can, by communicating with them with trust that they will listen.
And minimise the draining or unhelpful emotions of resentment, grudges, and revenge toward another.
If people see that their behaviour does not really affect you, because you don’t let it affect you—- but their purpose was to upset you, they may very well stop doing that thing which they thought would upset you!
If you minimise the emotional impact of someone who does something undesirable and send them loving intent for them to realise their ways in the right ways for them (e.g. someone else may act on your behalf to speak to the person or you could write the person a letter, or organise a team-building activity where you can have your say), and trust that things will work out for you, then they probably will.